15 things.

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only fear we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

skyscraper.

been listening to this song for awhile now but i haven' really thought that the lyrics would break me. yes im WASAK!!! lets give credit to Demi Lovato on making me sigh with a heavy heart. GoodJob ka ah! pero winner ung song. minsan talaga kung ano pa yung nakakasakit yun pa talaga panalo. tsk! 1st verse says it all. again. wasak!


Skies are crying, I am watching
Catching tear drops in my hands
Only silence as it's ending
Like we never had a chance
Do you have to make feel like
There's nothing left of me?  
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  

N.A.C.

ok i havent really sorted out the pictures we took from our last summer adventure at Naga, Albay and Caramoan Islands. but one thing i can say, this tops all our my summer outings. it maybe cliche on some and the experience is still vivid and i know for a fact that i cant explain it on one post. that is why im reserving another blog post for that. for now this is all i got. maybe just one-fourth of our vacay. ciao! :)

kryptonite.

when you say kryptonite first thing that hits your brain is the one that you encounter reading on a comic books. superhero character comes into the picture and since wiki is my bestfriend nowadays, i searched for it and uncover these superman terms yada yada. why am i writing something about kryptonite? well first, this would be total nonsense if it hasn't something to do with me. i was watching some reruns of Zooey's New Girl  and there was this one episode that sorta nailed my senses. she was kinda having hard time making a big step forward after that break up with pseudo ex-boyfriend, struggling in moving on because her character here is someone who is too nice, too good to be true, the usual happy go lucky type that always makes her feel good on simple things around her. she loves to mimic, making funny faces, and when she thinks all is fcuked up she mends in a weird way. she sings, she thinks of theme song of her emotional state, she even watch the famous flick "Dirty Dancing" all over again just because she gets the kind of gratification in mending the pain. ok going back, why really kryptonite??! well on that episode alone, i see myself on Zooey's character. it was only when Jake Johnson  (Nick) utter these lines that it finally dawned on me.


he refers 'kryptonite' as someone's weakness, depriving her to make the biggest step of all, THAT is getting M-A-D, letting it all out, fighting back. and that's all ME. back in my younger days, i was this short fused person who jumps over the fence when im provoked. i am like that. but as i grew older i've started to make sense on my initial reactions, say bye bye with flight and fight kind of response. i made my own anger management. i had maintained that kind of patience and sense of control. but with all of these, there's a big downside. since i tend to overcome the anger and keep it all to myself, there's a feeling of numbness in me. and that was bad. i tend to skip the emotional thing part and let it pass. i dont normally get mad in a snap. not me knowing it was all piling up. i was like a big pail of water waiting to be filled up and water will start to spill. water was my emotions. faucet was my source of all kinds of emotions.


i was like this in everyone. that's why every time my weakness is being hit, i get to vulnerable with it, i use weakness to cover up my emotions instead of dealing with them, and what do they do? some takes advantage of it, and some are scared. little did i know i need to fight back but it was too late. for last few weeks i had some cases of flaring up and outburst. i was like a spark plug, i got mad and i finally blew up! even i got scared of myself because it took years before i could actually express it. got provoked this time. got to the point wherein i have to say, enough is enough. and sadly, it happened to least of the people i expected to. but now that i have learned the difference of these flaws. dont give in too much and dont give less. its always good to stay in between because thats when you will see the different perspectives of being neutral. i am now starting to take control of the situation. its not bad to react sometimes. if you feel bad about something, express it. don't let it pass without venting it out because the more you do that, the more it get worse. in dealing with people, don't always expect that they will be there always as you what you have stand to do. sometimes expecting the same drill will make you fall real hard. end of the day, you will realize who are these people that is worth sticking by and we don't need kryptonites.

LIN-sanity.

Its really seldom for me to root for an NBA player which I will be fixated on throughout ones career. To name a few I have my first NBA player I really idolizes, Grant Hill and LeBron James, that's it. Hill not just because he's known for a triple double killer but being a family man is what makes me like him as a player. While the latter, LBJ, is a no brainer, being a monster on the court. But right now, we have the soft spoken Jeremy aka LIN-sanity Lin making big waves on the NBA screen. He aint black and not AM-white but he is an Asian! *fistbump* Yes! Iam proud, I am after all an Asian. (masabi lang hehehe) Lin made some explosives, literally bring the house down at NBA. Even the other teams make some good, decent, fair tweets about him. One is Metta World Peace formerly known as Ron Artest, forward of LA Lakers made this tweet @MettaWolrdPeace "God created earth in 7 days, Jeremy Lin created energy in New York city in 6 games" That's right after Lin made his buzzer beater shot against the Raptors, made the shot sooo swiftly. boom! 6th game winning streak for the Knicks! I wont be discussing much of his games stats and all because that would be too much plagiarism. haha! As if! Kidding aside, games he played since he comes of the bench and made a thrilling and commanding performance last February 4, 2012  against the NJ Nets. That was the start and the rest is one big history for this exceptional player. 

Before that game that surprise the whole world, Lin was a soft spoken guy clad with his #17 NY Knicks jersey. Not too many knew he was undrafted during his attempt on an entry the biggest basketball league. But his name is already big during his high school years back in Palo Alto High School in Cali. What makes him more different from the others is that despite the stature he is currently in, he'd maintained his strong faith with God. Yes, he always mentions the guy up there on his interviews and tweets. His involvement with HRAACF  Harvard-Radcliffe Asian American Christian Fellowship is one proof how he managed to stay within the faith he has. He only dreams two things, not only to be the best basketball player but also to be the best Christian follower, quoted from Tam his spiritual adviser. 

On his freshmen year back in Harvard, he was considered as the weakest guy on the floor. But during his sophomore until his Senior year, he was praised by his schoolmates. And the following year after he graduated, he was undrafted. Going amongst the bandwagon of other NBA aspirants. But he got signed up for Golden State Warriors, got some counteroffers from other teams but this was his hometown so he chose that. He didn't shine because of the pressure he got from the fans until such time that he go knee injury then the lockout and all. But one fateful day of December 27 2011, he got waivered from New York Knicks but almost dropped off again from the final list and close on deciding to play on European basketball instead. And as fate meets him, Coach D'Antoni was forced to let him play out of desperation after team has lost their 11 of the last 13games. Its like now or never for the LIN-sanity sparkplug. February 4, he started for the team and make shots everywhere. Suddenly the New York were in jubilation. They were like sleeping giant that makes an uproar at the Madison Sqaure Garden. After that day, Jeremy Lin was famous all over the world. Total madness and everyone going media frenzy with Lin. Despite the stardom, he kept grounded. Lin's admonition of humility only showcase the kind of person he is. 

Majority of the fans not only loved him because of his sterling experience and skills but more importantly the strong faith he maintained from the time he was starting until now that he is reaping the fruits he earned. True servant of our God.